I’ve found that it’s all about the dealer. Some of them are hopeless. I also try to avoid talking to salesman as much as possible, and go for sales manager. Tell him straight up I’m ready to buy NOW but I don’t want to over pay. If they don’t like it, move on. I always start with email or phone, just tell them you live too far away to come in.
Too far is very subjective, 30 mins away could be too far for you lol.
Yep, this is true, especially in my highly-congested area, and with 2 little ones at home. That's why I didn't spend a huge amount of time running down the absolute best deal I could. I took a test drive on my own, one with my toddler, one with the whole family, and then one with just me. The first 2 were a non-eTorque Limited, the one with the whole fam was in a Limited long bed (bad salesperson, not listening) but eTorque, and the last was the truck I bought, which I drove twice... once with the salesman and once home to show SWMBO, who was working from home.
There's a law of diminishing returns. You can accept a "good" deal and spend very little time negotiating (like I did), or you can spend (usually) quite a bit more time and get a "great" deal (in quotes because good and great are subjective). That said, I have 2 kids under 4 and hated my F-150, so I wasn't motivated to save a couple more grand, and basically took the dealer's first number, minus around $100 (to make a round figure because OCD). My truck stickered just under $70,000 USD, and I got it for $47,000 with just under $15,000 in positive equity in my F-150. That includes tax/tags/title - for the life of me, I can't remember the pre-TTT number. I spent more time negotiating the warranty and prepaid maintenance package than I did the truck itself.
All-in, between email and phone and in-person, I spent under 6 hours working my deal, whereas for my buddy's 2016 Mustang, which he hired me to act as his Buyer's Broker, I spent about 10 hours, and I secured him a very good deal on his car.
The point of all this is to find a dealer you like, work a deal you think is good, and try not to compare your deal to someone else's. Lots of ire around here from the Late-May/Early-July buyers who missed out on the killer June deals, but at the end of the day, each and every one of us signed on the dotted line, and wouldn't have done so if we weren't happy with our particular deal.
Funny related story: Back in 2003 when the all-new 2004 Nissan Altima was introduced, I found 2 of them which were fully-loaded V6/manual models within a few miles of each other, and had the dealers fighting each other so bad that it went from $600/mo for 6yrs to $500/mo for 5yrs. By now, the OTD numbers have been forgotten, but not those monthly numbers - that's a huge difference! That deal took weeks to work out, and in the end a buddy of mine talked me out of it.
-John