I understand what you're saying. I'm 30 years old. This isn't my first car, I'm not negative on the truck. Actually negotiated a good deal on this truck brand new. I was working and decided to go for a career change, just jumped on it and said I'll figure it out as i go, since i figured with good maintenance the ram could give me at least 150k miles, I'll be done with school in 14 months and would have a career job immediately since it's in medical field. I've handled all my diff fluids, transfer case fluids at 50k miles before a trip to Chicago from NY. I'm aware of upcoming transmission fluids and radiator flush. I've upgraded rotors and pads (xtreme pads) replaced them myself. I looked into getting a smaller car and in today's market they wanted 450 a month for a Honda civic... I pay 650 for my fully loaded laramie that's probably almost double the price of a civic. And I don't want a 10+ year old car that's going to cost 10k in today's used market that I'm going to be stuck with repairing every other month and be stranded occasionally (like my 96 E36 M3 that's been sitting for 2 years). I'm not asking ram for unlimited warranty but something that's a consistent issue with majority of their trucks should be addressed by them. I don't mind fixing the manifold issue but if its something that's going to continue going bad or breaking every 20k miles then that's a manufacturer defect. As for the passenger axle. I replaced both prematurely because the passenger side was doing the harlem shake and now passenger axle is back at it again. I don't mind replacing it but if it's going to continue to go bad prematurely... is that fair to the consumer?
I mean there Is a lot that is not fair to the consumer, and it's not just Ram. Most replacement parts come with their own warranty, buy them using a credit card that provides extended warranty (it adds 1 year of warranty to any item with a warranty of 5 years or less when paid with the credit card). That should at least get you a 2 year warranty minimum if stuff is really going every 20k miles.
I havnt seen many complaints about axle problems but for the manifolds I know they have changed part numbers a bit but not sure if the problem is completely solved with the newer part numbers yet.
There is some luck of the draw on this too, not 100% of the trucks have manifold problems, just like not 100% have a leaking rear window frame.
You can get an extended warranty through mopar/maxcare, and if you are having these problems it might make sense to do so. They have like 4 different offerings and time ranges and millilge limits and it could give you the peace of mind knowing you don't have unexpected expenses and can budget for it. It is done through any Ram dealership, it's not one of those 3rd party claim type crap.
Maybe check it out, enter your info and see what it looks like? You might need to get an inspection due to your high millage I believe.