My point is, what's the threshold...does 400 rpms more decrease engine life, or maybe it's 800, or maybe its 1000. and how much does it decrease it by? 1%? 5%? The answer is, you don't know, and I don't either, so its just anecdotal. And come on, how many of us are really going to take these things to 200-300K miles or whatever it is? probably none.
You two clearly can't imagine a world where deeper gears make sense, which is fine, but you should try to understand them better (outside of just MPGs and anecdotal engine life) before you try to convince other people who just want advice.
the last thing I'll point out is safety. Having a car that is quicker is safer. If I accidentally pull out in front of someone, the faster I can get moving or out of their way the better. There are a bunch of different examples. going from 4.10s in my jeep to 5.38s really highlighted that.
100 rpms less will increase engine life, to what degree, IDK but I know on my car, 100 rpm can increase valve spring life significantly as well as piston ring life, it's not anecdotal.
I see no reason that these principles wouldn't apply to the truck just like they do a diesel.
I took my last truck to 277k miles so to answer your question, me.
I can perfectly understand a situation where a lower gear (numerically higher) would be beneficial, it's just not in this truck primarily because of the 8 speed trans, there's a reason hellcat redeyes don't go significantly faster with 3:09s vs the 2:71 gear, the transmission and torque, you don't need a lot of gear when you have torque, gear is a bandaid for lack of power. Example, my car with 3:42's actually has too much gear now because of the torque curve and amount.
I also know plenty of people that have put more gear in the car and lost performance, gears are a trade off, faster 100' acceleration for slower acceleration after 100' because you run out of motor/rpm.
Gears made more of an impact in 3, 4, 5 and 6 speed trans, less of an impact in 8 and 10 speed trans.
Your safety argument is just dumb, sorry. Having more gear incase you pulled out indrint of traffic will more than likely result in wheel spin which will actually you down causing an accident. A better solution would be to not pull out into traffic. Case in point, my car is on drag radials 24/7 and I still don't pull out infront of people. Even on DR's I can spin tge tires at 60 mph, that's power. Less power and more gear will do the same thing just at a slower speed.
If your in a situation where 3:92 is a significant help for you, you may need to move up to a 2500 and a diesel.