Others here have addressed your concerns pretty well. I will add a couple of points:
* You can go into your Uconnect settings and select Auto On for your seats - This should address your concern. I will qualify this response, though, that once my seats are on they don't turn off until I turn them off, so you may have an issue.
* I have a Tazer DT installed on my truck. I bought it specifically for just a few of its options including Auto Closing the mirrors on shutoff/Auto Opening them on startup.
* Someone can correct me if I'm wrong on this, but if you have the Ram app, you should be able to check/lock your doors on your phone, which compensates somewhat for not have the autolock system.
* It sounds like if you can take a little time setting up the apps, buttons, and settings on your 12" screen, you might be able to add a little more enjoyment to your experience. Also, you can control your climate system through the Voice Recognition button on your steering wheel, this can be useful.