Just to give "the other group" their due, post 55 in that thread says:
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"We pull a 28BHS with a RAM 1500 1/2 ton. About 8000lbs loaded, 1000lbs tongue weight (scaled). We use an Equalizer 4 point 1400 hitch.
I find the towing experience satisfactory once I dialed in my hitch. I don’t experience sway, although I do experience some semi push/pull. The truck pulls slowly up grades with the 5.7L V8 at high revs (3-4000 rpm) but we’ve gone everywhere we wanted. With downshifting, we’ve not had any problems with speed control.
I do have a question for those who have upgraded their truck. We find the towing ride to be quite jarring when we drive on rough highway — seams, bridges, snow damage, etc. Unfortunately the western US states seem to have a lot of poor highway! I-40 and US160 are recent drives that were jarring." (End of copied portion)
I'd say this guy (above) is towing overweight as he doesn't mention his RAM's payload nor does he talk about the occupant and equipment weights plus he's driving in the mountains, however he's reasonably "satisfied"...
**Theres a different thread on the same forum that responds to the famous "can I tow this" question in a way that seems pretty easy to understand. I'll copy/paste it here:
"...And I'll give a real-world example of how worthless "Tow Capacity" is. My former truck, a 2005 F-150 crew cab 5.4L with tow package, had a tow capacity of 9,200 lbs. However, the door jamb sticker was a payload of just under 1,300 lbs.
I stick my family of 5 in the cab and wood and gear in the bed and I end up with a number very similar to the build above. Let's say 875 lbs for easy math.
Then, using blind faith in my Tow Capacity, I hook up a 9,000 lbs trailer to my truck. That's dropping 9000 * .125 = 1,125 lbs onto my hitch. Hey, I'm still 200 lbs under my tow limit, so I'm good to go!! (that part is hypothetical ... I never owned or towed a 9,000 lb trailer)
Meanwhile, I literally have 2,000 lbs loaded onto my truck (875 + 1125) against a payload of 1,300. I'm 700 lbs over my truck's GVWR. It's not safe and it wouldn't even be possible with that truck. So, ignore Tow Capacity. It's a garbage number that leads to really poor decisions." (End of copied portion, bolding is mine)
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