As others said... for the 4th gen Rams (2009-2018), and the Ram Classics (2019+), the ECO light coming on does not equal MDS operation. ECO light needs to come on for MDS to operate, but ECO simply meant you're driving economically.
For the new body style (non-Classic) Ram, 2019+, also known as the DT Rams, ECO and MDS appear to be the same. This is confirmed for 2019-2020. I doubt Stellantis (new name for FCA + PSA) would bother to change the programming for 2021, but weirder things have happened I suppose.
Test it out yourself, see if Tow/Haul stops it from working. If you find it annoying, then you can tell when the truck goes into MDS and when its not.
If it does not, your only recourse is to limit the gear range.